I can't believe it has been over a month since my last post,but things have been crazy. My new job has kept me really busy and all the travel I think has made my mom even worse. As I mentioned on the last post, my mom got physically violent and it happened again on a recent trip of mine to California. It is so hard for me because I know how awful it is for my wife and how hard it is for her being here without me, but also because I know that for my mom to act that way it really has to affect her in a big way, she would never ever act like that prior to the illness. I took her to a new psychiatrist today and he is putting her on a new medication as what she was on was not helping her with her mood. As I told the doctor, I know the (horrible) effects of Alzheimer's but if at least her outlook and overall mood is improved it will help. I hate it for her that she feels like we are against her or doing things that are not right when all we do is trying to do what is best for her and hopefully make her happy, at least a little.
We have also started to look at homes, we have come to the realization that no matter how much we think we can, we are not able to take care of her. In particular with all my travel, a lot of the heavy lifting falls on my wife which is not fair either. We also visited an adult day care, it is actually in the same senior center where she used to volunteer to teach Spanish classes, it was very nice and hope that if she starts going there it will help with keeping her busy and improve her mood too, right now she spends all day obsessing over little things and gets more aggravated.
One thing that I am trying to work on is for my son to be better with my mom, unfortunately being only three he responds to her moods and does not understand it is because she is sick, and so he does not want her around, which of course compounds the situation since she feels he does not love her.
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
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